Kevin Harney: No Is a Beautiful Word

No Is a Beautiful Word
(Zondervan, 2019)

WHO: Kevin Harney, lead pastor of Shoreline Community Church in Monterey, California, and founder of Organic Outreach Ministries International.

HE SAYS: “Saying no is the mature and wise response to many of the options and opportunities that come your way (both bad and good). You will learn to speak this word many times and in many ways, not because you are a negative person but because you are committed to saying yes to the things that matter most.”

THE BIG IDEA: Saying no to what doesn’t matter in life allows you to say yes to what brings hope, peace and lasting meaning.

Each short chapter in this book includes a story or illustration, ways readers can apply the concept to their lives and a practical exercise. Part 1, “Welcome to the World of No,” introduces the concept of setting boundaries and why it is important for a healthy life. Part 2, “Know Your Nos,” spells out different types of nos you can say.
Part 3, “Picking Your Nos,” looks at different situations where different nos would be appropriate. “No Strategy” is Part 4. It explores the results of saying no and why you need to have a plan.
Part 5, “Critical Nos,” discusses the big nos that have critical consequences, such as those related to living a moral life. “No Results” is Part 6, which reviews the main points of the book, which concludes with Part 7, “The Freedom of Yes.”

“Are there deep and honest nos you need to speak to people you love? Are you ready and willing to hear honest nos that peel back self-deception and reveal the way things really are? If so, deep healing can happen in your life and relationships.”

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Kevin Harney

Kevin Harney ( is an Outreach magazine contributing editor, lead pastor of Shoreline Church in Monterey, California, and the founder and visionary leader of Organic Outreach International ( He is the author of the Organic Outreach trilogy and, most recently, Organic Disciples: Seven Ways to Grow Spiritually and Naturally Share Jesus, in addition to multiple studies and articles.