10 Hard-Won Ministry Leadership Lessons Learned

After twenty-one years as lead pastor at New Life Fellowship Church, our staff conducted a half-day exercise to identify the pivotal turning points we experienced together. Several team members had been with the ministry since its inception, providing a wealth of shared history. Over the following weeks, I refined these hard-earned church leadership lessons and, with the guidance of our elder board, distilled them into ten essential principles.

These ten lessons were birthed from difficult labor, costly mistakes, and seasons of suffering. My hope is that future generations at New Life, and within your own congregation, will prayerfully consider these insights to avoid repeating our past errors. Documenting these experiences serves as a roadmap for those who follow in our footsteps.

Upon rediscovering this document in my files, I was struck by the timeless nature of these challenges. I encourage you to reflect before God on your own mistakes, taking the time to capture insights and process them theologically. Learning from failure is one of God’s primary methods for fostering spiritual maturity and underscores the vital importance of continuous learning in ministry leadership.

1. Character is more important than gifting. When we have overlooked issues of character, and humility, in particular, we have paid a price. (The power of God really is made perfect in our weakness.).

2. Do not rush. When decisions were made quickly, without pausing to pray, think and process implications, we had regrets. Seeing the Promised Land without taking the time to discern the pillar of cloud and fire on how to get there is foolishness.

3. Leaders need to take responsibility and initiative for their own growth and development. As leaders invest time in personal growth and development, they shape all those who look to them for leadership.

4. Clarity of vision brings about unified leadership and unified leadership reinforces the vision. This takes a lot of inner work, high differentiation and significant time to get your core team on the same page with you, but the ripple effect is powerful and far-reaching.

5. Extended Sabbatical rest releases new, life-giving initiatives from God, enabling leaders to serve out of a cup that overflows. Rich fruit and change has always resulted in the larger work in, and through our pastor/leaders when they have stepped away for longer periods of time to be with God, and to listen to him for an extended period of time.

6. Face the truth and act on it, even if it hurts. Walking in truth requires great courage, humility, along with a bountiful supply of grace and power from God.

7. Enforce your values, being careful not to dilute them. When we compromised on them out a desire to grow quickly, we paid a high price. Our integrity, long-term mission and effectiveness were all damaged.

8. Bridging race, culture, class and gender barriers requires we remain open to new learnings, be self-reflective and consistently question our current assumptions. We are all beginners in addressing the massive divisions that have separated peoples inside and outside the church for thousands of years.

9. Be faithful to your charism (i.e., grace) that is uniquely yours from God. Eagerly learn from other streams and ministries, but be content in your particular gift from God.

10. Intentional mentoring of individuals is key to bearing long-term fruit and stability. This requires time, patience, perseverance and a laser focus. Leading organizations and ministries are important, but nothing will ever take the place of life-on-life discipleship.

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This article was originally posted on EmotionallyHealthy.org and is reposted here by permission.

Pete Scazzero
Pete Scazzerohttp://www.EmotionallyHealthy.org

Pete Scazzero, after leading New Life Fellowship Church for 26 years, co-founded Emotionally Healthy Discipleship, a groundbreaking ministry that moves the church forward by slowing the church down in order to multiply deeply changed leaders and disciples. Pete hosts the top-ranked Emotionally Healthy Leader podcast and is the author of a number of bestselling books, including The Emotionally Healthy Leader and Emotionally Healthy Spirituality. Pete and his wife Geri also developed The Emotionally Healthy Discipleship Course (Part 1 and 2), a powerful resource that moves people from a shallow to a deep relationship with Jesus.

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