5 Ways the Enemy Worms His Way Into Your Marriage

Some years ago, I wrote a post that has become by far the most popular post I’ve ever written: 12 Ways Satan Attacks Christian Marriages. That post was so popular that I later wrote a follow-up describing why I believe the readership for that post was so wide. Here are some additional ways I’m seeing the enemy work his way into marriages these days:

  1. Encouraging text and email relationships. I’ve ministered more than once to couples dealing with unfaithfulness, but I’ve never encountered unfaithfulness that did not begin with some kind of emotional attachment—in most cases, never with the thought of unfaithfulness in mind. Even text and email attention, though, can lead quickly in the wrong direction.
  2. Emphasizing immediate pleasure over long-term consequences. That was his trick in the Garden of Eden, too – to turn the attention of Adam and Eve from obeying God’s command to eating from the tree. We usually learn the hard way—including in our marriages—that chasing what we want in the immediate is not worth the results in the end.
  3. Promoting a false prosperity gospel. It’s happening all over the world. And, it affects relationships. A gospel that promotes health and wealth also promotes self-centeredness and worldly living. Many believe not only that God wants to give them blessings, but also that they deserve them—even if getting them means walking away from marriage relationships that seem to get in the way.
  4. Welcoming biblical illiteracy in churches. Christians who really don’t know the Bible often assume what the Bible teaches and seldom recognize false teachings. They listen to the world more than to the Word—and the world almost promotes marriage without commitment and divorce without consequences. By the way, churches who don’t systematically disciple their members don’t help here, either.
  5. Delighting when churches teach little (or wrongly) about sexuality. I realize this conversation can be awkward, but I also recognize an open door for the enemy when we (a) fail to teach the biblical view of sexuality; (b) speak only judgmentally about illicit sexuality without celebrating God’s gift properly shared in marriage; (c) refuse to offer love, grace, and forgiveness to those caught in sexual sin; or (d) use texts like 1 Corinthians 7:5 to push physical activity within marriage while ignoring our responsibility to love our spouses spiritually and emotionally first.

Based on all these posts about Satan and marriage, is the enemy winning in your marriage in any way?

Read more from Chuck Lawless »

This article originally appeared on ChuckLawless.com and is reposted here by permission.

Chuck Lawless
Chuck Lawlesshttp://ChuckLawless.com

Chuck Lawless is dean and vice president of graduate studies and ministry centers at Southeastern Seminary in Wake Forest, North Carolina, and global theological education consultant for the International Mission Board of the Southern Baptist Convention.

CenterPoint Church: A Steady Presence in Long Island

“Our focus is always on reaching the lost and those who are far from God. We just keep honoring God, trying to reach our community, being missional and attractional, and person by person, they keep coming through the doors.” - Pastor Brian McMillan

5 Reasons the Church Thrives When It Grows Younger

Psalm 78:4–7 reminds us of our sacred responsibility: “We will not hide them from their descendants; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy...

Back to School: Why Theological Education Matters to the Church

Evangelism is the church’s speech to the outside world, but worship is where it learns its grammar.