The best memories of the rest of your life–the greatest lessons learned, the finest strengths developed in you, and the best stories–will involve the problems you faced, the negative people you dealt with, and the troubles you endured.
The win here is that the relationship stays intact, not necessarily that you reach a resolution, even though you hope you do find one. Ultimately the goal is not to win an argument or point out the error of the other person’s ways, but to reconcile.