The Secret to Healing the Racial Divide

We are born into conflicts that we did not create. These disputes existed long before we arrived on Planet Earth. But we still have to live with their aftermath.

I remember going to a restaurant with my mom when I was about eight years old. As soon as we sat down, a disheveled White man started spewing hate-filled words at the Black people present. He screamed, “I remember a day when n—s were not allowed to eat at restaurants with us good White folk!” A Black man stood up to deal with the situation, but his wife stopped him, saying, “Baby, he’s not worth it.” My little-boy brain was confused, and my heart was afraid. Sadly, my mother grew up in a time when Black people could not eat at restaurants with White people. She remembers drinking from “colored-only” water fountains.

In elementary school, nearly every day when I walked past the last house on the block that led to my school, a thirtysomething Hispanic man would shout through his screen door, “N—, Blacky, Blacky!” Before writing this book, I hadn’t thought about that experience in years. I guess my brain buried this trauma in the “let’s not remember this” file. Sadly, I had normalized these types of racial slurs. That same man and his adult friends who lived with him later threatened one of my teenage Black friends by putting a knife in his face after they stole his boom box.

My friends weren’t always on the receiving end of these slurs. In my preteen years, my Hispanic friends who had been born in America would use racial slurs to disparage the undocumented Mexicans who came to America illegally.

I had normalized this senseless racism. I cringe at the thought that I allowed other human beings made in the image of God to be called such dehumanizing names in my presence. But this was my normal, everyday existence.

These memories are just a drop in the sea of the daily experiences of people of every sort who live with the reality of racism, sexism, classism, and hate. Sin is ugly, and it makes us ugly to one another. Our world is a battle zone that reeks of generational, institutional discrimination and personal contempt.

Like you, my soul is weary from the racial divide in the church and in our country. We want to heal the hurt, right the wrongs, and create trust where distrust exists. Racism and racial injustice are sins so deeply embedded in our culture that it is going to require disciples of Jesus who thoroughly rely on the Holy Spirit and who passionately inhabit Jesus’ love to change things.

This love we are commanded to looks like the cross of Jesus. God’s kind of love moves beyond words to actions, beyond sentimental feelings to a relentless commitment to the well-being of others, and beyond comfort to uncomfortable sacrifice. In learning to love people of other ethnicities and cultural expressions, we are forged into true disciples of Jesus. By our love for one another—especially those from a different ethnicity and social class—we become a foretaste of God’s Kingdom. Jesus told his disciples, “I give you a new command: Love one another. Just as I have loved you, you are also to love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (John 13:34-35). The moment we say yes to Jesus as our Redeemer and King, we are enrolled in his school of love.

Jesus’ disciple John writes, “The one who loves his brother or sister remains in the light, and there is no cause for stumbling in him. But the one who hates his brother or sister is in the darkness, walks in the darkness, and doesn’t know where he’s going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes” (1 John 2:10-11). In Christ Jesus, your brothers and sisters are Asian, Latino, White, Native, and Black people. Your being “in Christ” means your inclusion into a redeemed, multicolored, multiethnic family that God promised to Abraham.1 Fighting against the sin of racism and racial injustice is not optional for those who call on the name of King Jesus. The apostle Paul—a Jew—proclaimed, “I am obligated both to Greeks and barbarians, both to the wise and the foolish. . . . For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, first to the Jew, and also to the Greek” (Romans 1:14, 16). Paul’s passion to see the unity and reconciliation of Jews and Gentiles—distinct ethnicities with centuries of enmity between them—was an imperative of the gospel, even when it caused him great harm, persecution, and ultimately death.

Love that heals the racial divide is more than social-media posts or one-off events. This Holy Spirit–generated love forms us into “living sacrifices” at the altar of God’s transformative grace (Romans 12:1). Only those willing to lay down their cultural power and privilege for the marginalized, oppressed, and disenfranchised will be able to love with a fierceness that unites brothers and sisters across ethnic and socioeconomic lines.

The gospel of King Jesus breaks down barriers that divide and builds up unity in God’s multiethnic family. This is not a peripheral issue but is at the very heart of the gospel. Bible scholar N. T. Wright writes, 

Paul is referring to the new reality, accomplished in the Messiah’s death and resurrection, that, because the dark powers had been overcome and new creation launched, and because of the gift of the Messiah’s Spirit, all believers of whatever background stood on level ground within the community. The theology and praxis of a church united across the traditional boundaries of ethnic, class, and gender distinctions was never for Paul a secondary matter: it was at the very heart. Otherwise, one would in effect be saying that the Messiah did not after all defeat (through his death) the powers of darkness that divide and corrupt the human race.

The Bible’s vision is for a loving, unified church that comprises all ethnicities. The holy pursuit of gospel-shaped racial reconciliation and racial justice is the natural overflow of life in Christ. Jesus came to forgive and reconcile humanity to his Father so we can be reconciled to and unified with one another as siblings by the Spirit’s power and presence. We are the Jesus-indwelled family that brings heaven to earth as the temple of God the Holy Spirit. We are the Spirit-enabled family that is to be salt and light, glorifying our Father in heaven.

God has always wanted a multiethnic family to serve as a sign and foretaste of his Kingdom on earth. The Father’s Kingdom has Black kids, White kids, Asian kids, Indigenous kids, Latino kids, and all-kind-of-mix kids in it. God’s multicolored family is indwelled by Jesus, so his ministry and mission of reconciliation, justice, and love will continue through us by the Holy Spirit’s transformative work.

Let us become the change that we want to see in the church and in the world. Through the gospel, we can heal our racial divide as bridges of grace.

Excerpted from How to Heal Our Racial Divide: What the Bible Says, and the First Christians Knew, about Racial Reconciliation by Derwin L. Gray. Tyndale House Publishers. Copyright 2022. Used by permission. 

Derwin Gray
Derwin Grayhttp://DerwinLGray.com

Derwin L. Gray is the co-founding and lead pastor of Transformation Church in South Carolina. He also is the author of How to Heal Our Racial Divide (Tyndale Momentum).

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