Make Your Point, and Let It Go

Have you ever been in a “discussion” (or argument) with someone who just wouldn’t let it die? They make their point but can’t seem to let it go. In those cases, more does not mean better. In fact, the more they argue, the more they undermine what they’re trying to accomplish.

So if you’re one of those people, here’s something to remember:

From discussions to outright debates, know when you’ve made your point.  If you keep lecturing or arguing, at that point you’re simply venting. Venting wears people out and drives them away, or worse, it makes them double down.

Successful negotiators know when they’ve accomplished their goal.

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Phil Cooke
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Phil Cooke is a filmmaker, media consultant, and founder of Cooke Media Group in Los Angeles and Nashville. His latest book is Church on Trial: How to Protect Your Congregation, Mission, and Reputation During a Crisis. Find out more at PhilCooke.com.

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