How you can make a tough season easier
Being a pastor is a high calling, yet pastors often face loneliness and discouragement. Surprisingly, some surveys reveal that up to 80% of pastors face regular discouragement in ministry. If that statistic even remotely reflects reality then your pastor probably needs your encouragement. Yet, it seems so rare. The influential writer Henry Nouwen even wrote these insightful words:
“There is little praise and much criticism in the church today, and who can live for long in such a climate without slipping into some type of depression?”
If your pastors need encouragement, should you offer it to him or her, or should they just suck it up? If you do want to encourage them, what’s the best way to do it? I suggest some practical ways here.
I’m convinced that we all need encouragement, even the strongest believer and most mature pastor. In fact, the apostle Paul admitted he needed it and often referred to those who refreshed his and other people’s spirits, Philemon, Onesiphorus and the Corinthian church. At times he even asked for it. A key character in the Bible, Barnabas, was known as the son of encouragement.
Hebrews 13:17 speaks to this need and admonishes followers of Jesus to respond to their leaders in such a way as to make their work a joy. These translations bring out the meaning:
• So don’t make them sad as they do their work. Make them happy. (CEV)
• Let them do this with joy and not with grief. (NASB)
• Give them reason to do this joyfully and not with sorrow. (NLT)
• Let them do all this with joy and not with groaning. (ESV)
In the research I did for my book, 5 Ministry Killers and How to Defeat Them, I surveyed hundreds of pastors and asked them how people in their church encouraged them. These were the top six responses.
1. You showed me tangible appreciation (such as small gifts like a gift card to a coffee shop).
2. You let me know that I spiritually impacted your life (such as sending an email to him or her about a recent message that helped you grow).
3. You prayed for me (such as sending a note telling your pastor that you prayed for him).
4. You accepted and understood me, cared for me, and were there when I needed you (such as communicating in a genuine way that you know how difficult it is being a pastor and that you truly care).
5. You supported my leadership, defended me, and trusted me (such as going out of your way to tell your pastor that you truly believe in him and trust him).
6. You ministered to my spouse and/or my family (such as remembering his or her kids’ birthdays).
The pastors who responded to this survey shared many touching stories and sad ones as well. One pastor even wrote that he wasn’t sure anybody in his church really cared about him. I hope your pastor doesn’t feel that way.
If you’re a pastor, would sharing this with your church in an appropriate way to open the door for the encouragement you desperately need in your life right now?
If you aren’t a pastor, what is God prompting you to do this week to encourage your pastor?
This article originally appeared on CharlesStone.com and is reposted here by permission.
1. Henri J.M. Nouwen, In the Name of Jesus (New York: The Crossroad Publishing Company, 1989), 32.